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Stories of Love, Hate and Passion: Relationship Mottos and Realities of Modern Life

Loneliness is a catastrophe for all those seeking to lead a satisfactory and fulfilling life and having a relationship is usually the solution for many such people. A love affair enables individuals to express intimacy, trust and compassion in each other and the formation of such unity most definitely puts up a fortified front against the hardships of life. Relationship advice, whether it be from a friend, a family member or a mental health professional at one of the nation’s prestigious Naya Clinics always helps mend relations and develop stronger ties for couples and therefore should be taken seriously. The abstract and slippery nature of love and romance tends to repulse the rational mind, but the soul and the spirit always remind one of the true meaning of belonging and unity, motivating the person to be more open to understanding their significant other and seek ways to reconcile with the sentiments of specialness and bonding.

            Marriage is the ultimate finale for a couple and having children cements the relationship in an irreversible manner. However, in the case of the child passing away, the relationship faces significant challenges that might very well end it for good. The case of Emily and David Graham on the Christmas Eve of 2015 is a good example for things gone wrong in the lives of a happy family when the couple lost their son, Cameron, due to an unexpected ‘hereditary coproporphyria’ attack triggered by the nasal spray he was using for his cold. David never forgave himself for giving the spray to Cameron and although Emily never blamed him for it, they fell apart and began to grieve separately. Emily started a blog where she wrote about her post-traumatic experiences as well as a Facebook page in memory of Cameron where she met other parents who went through similar pains to share ideas and grievances with one another. David became super-indulgent in his work to forget about his pain and the couple decided to set a distance between themselves to allow forgiveness to take over. Several family friends advised to the couple to see a therapist but they refused, believing that listening to another person for such a personal issue would do more harm than good. The strategy that worked out perfectly well in the end and today the family is back in functioning form, focusing on the future as a gift, remembering Cameron with acceptance and longing.  

            Communication is an essential part of any given relationship and the way couples refer to each other makes a great difference with respect to their stability and happiness together. A relationship eradicates the notion of the individual and creates a collective unity and therefore using pronouns such as ‘we’ and ‘us’ most definitely helps couples develop a sense of security. Researchers from the University of California conducted a study on 5,000 participants to investigate “the correlation between the use of first-person plural pronouns (such as “we”, “our”, “us”) and the health of romantic relationships” to conclude that the ‘we-talk’ is beneficial for numerous aspects of such relationships. In their analysis, the researchers focused on the duration of the relationship, the couples’ behavior patterns, mental and physical health status of the individuals as well as their intimacy to one another during the day. The given beneficial effects were applicable to all age groups while the researchers are still trying to figure out whether if happy couples used such pronouns or couples became happy because they used such words, with the supposition that both conditions hold ground.

            The digital age has managed to create digital problems for numerous types of people and couples are an open target as well. According to a recent ComRes survey conducted on couples between 18 and 24 years of age, 25% of such couples “want the opportunity to treat their relationship like a phone contract”, seeking ways to upgrade their relationships or simply delete them. Dating apps such as Tinder have already eradicated boundaries between men and women that were thought to be necessary and essential prior to the digital age, adding a sense of mechanical joy into the process of meeting and falling in love with another person. The business aspect of these services further complicate the process as users are granted the option of buying ‘Super Likes’ to be able to meet attractive people, basically buying their way into their lives. The investment-like logic behind online-dating leads people to demand more than natural outcomes which leads to the loss of intimacy, honesty and constructivism within such relationships.